Before I dive into this blog post, I would just like to saythat I took both inspiration and information from the Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/revolian_activist/ . They discuss women’s rights, BLM, the LGBTQ+ community and so much more. Would definitely advise to give them a follow because holy moly its so insightful!
So just to explain what toxic feminity is, it can also be described as internalised misogyny. We all know what toxic masculinity is, when a male does certain things thatare hateful or problematic towards women well other women can be guilty of this as well. I can say that I have been guilty of it as well as its only something that I’ve realised is wrong in the last few weeks.
Toxic women are the women that body shame other women, bully them on how they act, how they dress, how they speak. This all due to these women feeling as if they are the pinnacle of femininty that is promoted by today’s society. Like I said above that I can admit myself guilty on this as well. I’ve sometimes caught myself saying something about how a particular girl may have dressed a certain day during a non-uniform day in secondary school. And I genuinely didn’t realise what I was doing! Being in an all girls school, I always heard other girls pass comments about someone else’s hair that day or their makeup. But, its all about educating and ettering yourself.
It can also show in the form of being nasty towards men who may be more so on the feminine side if things. This may be men who wear makeup or nail polish, men who may cry or who would be regarded as “sweet”, even men who may not be “manly” (whatever it actually means to be manly). Its toxic women in relationships who think they have the unwarranted right to hit a man bcause “he can’t hit back or who blame the victims of assault, rape or domestic violence as opposed to the ones who committed the act.
In the short of things, toxic behaviour or beliefs have no gender. If you are an inherently nasty or toxic person you need to consider educating and bettering yourself. Every right is reserved to call you out if you are putting anyone down. We as a society as a whole need to take the first step in calling out these individuals and protect those who may have little to no voice when the need to stand up for themselves arise. Please, just be kind. This world is harsh enough. And us women need to build eachother up and protect eachother.
Thanks for reading and as always, please make sure to look after yourselves guys and never hesitate to reach out. There will always be someone there to listen and offer help and guidance. Whether its friends, family, teachers, workmates or a counselling service, you are not alone. And ladies, please never forget your worth or ever let a man or other woman tell you what it is.
Here are links which contain the contact details or mental health and counselling services around Ireland: